A trauma reveals important parts of ourselves and the type of world we live in. Finding this out can be a very confronting process. After reconsidering our goals based on the new insights it is possible that: Certain goals that we had for ourselves before losing our babies are now gone or We could have the feeling that those goals no longer seem to have as much meaning as they once did. We probably even lost faith that we can…
Growth after baby loss means moving from the shock of confronting the destruction of our beliefs/dreams/hopes. Recognizing that it is important to give a serious thought about how we want to continue living life to start building a new system of understanding that can help us integrate and survive this trauma and the ones to come in the future. Reflecting and working towards post-traumatic growth is possible and I am here to support you in that process. Would you like…
Our mind and thoughts are so full past and future. Let’s give ourselves 5 minutes to appreciate the present moment and to activate our 5 senses. Are you ready to take 5 minutes for yourself? Let's do a quick exercise: Sending lots of love your way, Yolanda. Let's connect! Please schedule a 30-min intro call with me as soon as you want/can. We can chat via Skype or Zoom from the comfort of your own safe space. Just click here and sign…
But Yolanda, let’s be honest, is coaching right for life after baby loss and grief? This is a question I have been asked many times. I know it can be confusing, there are so many types of coaching out there: life coaching, business coaching, executive coaching, career coaching, leadership coaching, just to mention a few. I could spend a whole blog post trying to explain the differences between coaching and therapy, but I rather share my personal perspective with you. …
The words we choose can drive our behavior, shape our beliefs and contribute to the way we create our world. After losing Max, I heard these comments over and over again and I somehow repeated them myself, but they always left me feeling sad and guilty. I don’t want to get over my beautiful baby, he is part of my life. I refused to repeat this and instead I say out loud that I have learned to live with it.…
Finding light in our darkest times is one of the hardest things to do. Forgetting about the world for a second, what you should or shouldn't be doing, what is expected in these situations is hard. This is your reality, nobody knows exactly how you feel and what you went through even if they experienced something similar. This is your journey. What can you start doing now? Take a little break to listen to your heart, treat yourself and others…
Finding ways to replace them with constructive actions We don’t often talk about death until our own world breaks apart with the loss of someone we love. There seems to be an unwritten rule in our society that says that speaking openly about death and grief is not ok, that it is better to avoid the topic. Grief is mostly seen as a negative thing. Most of us internalize that message and when it happens to us, we tend to…
Is there anything you have been postponing until you feel ready to move forward? Life after baby loss is hard. It is challenging. It is trying to figure out our ways over and over again... The truth is, you will never feel 100% ready. You just need to do it, in your own way, at your own pace, step by step, little by little...you can do this! The end of your baby's life doesn't have to mean the end of…