Dear family, friends and (ex)colleagues/acquaintances, I am sorry if you asked me how I was doing and I lied to you saying that “I was ok”. I am sorry if you wanted more time with me but I just simply couldn’t make it. I am sorry if you asked me “what would you like to do now?” and instead of answering “I don’t know” I came up with no clear answers and left you feeling a little lost. I am…
Baby loss trauma matters. This experience is now part of our lives. It shapes the way we make decisions and how we perceive life but it shouldn’t be what fully defines us… We are human beings who have suffered immensely, we have been thrown into the unknown. Life without our babies was not in our plans and there are no manuals to find our ways again but we are trying! We keep going one tiny step at a time, day…
No matter what they say, there are no fixed rules or guidelines to live a better life or to cope with grief in a perfect way... The way you do this remains a personal choice. My rule of thumb: choose whatever works best for you, whatever gives you energy and feels naturally good for you but please do the work, take action. No matter how strong we think we are, we are never prepared for life after baby loss: The…
TRUE LOVE NEVER ENDS... ...and this powerful love can be transformed, expanded and used in ways that you probably don’t even dare to think about at this moment. When you do the work to transform the power of that pure love into strength, you will be prepared for whatever life will throw at you in the future and you will learn to integrate your baby in your life. It isn’t easy but it is definitely worth it. After all you…
So please, go ahead, close your eyes and think of your beautiful baby! Allow yourself some space and time to remember, honor, and to connect with him/her/them. Are you being brave by doing this? No, you are just being a parent to your beautiful child who now lives in your heart. Our babies will be always part of our lives whether they are here or not ♥ Love, Yolanda
Is there anything you have been postponing until you feel ready to move forward? Life after baby loss is hard. It is challenging. It is trying to figure out our ways over and over again... The truth is, you will never feel 100% ready. You just need to do it, in your own way, at your own pace, step by step, little by little...you can do this! The end of your baby's life doesn't have to mean the end of…